Childhood friendships change on a drop of a hat. Everyone is our best friend at least for the moment. Some get lucky and carry that friendship through their life and share their happy, sad, and momentous times together. Some families move around so much the children aren't able to connect and develop lasting friendships.
As adults we have neighbors, co-workers, friends of friends, in- laws, and so on. We can meet new people at church or at a bar. When we take our dog to the park we have common ground with others playing ball with their dog. They all somehow become our Facebook friends. We know what they are doing and how they are feeling all the time. When they break up with their life partner, as their friend we find out, but we never go to their house for dinner because we aren't really their friend.
I have been in the casino business for thirteen years and in that time have found my closest friends inside those walls. I met my best friend the night of the casino grand opening and since that night couldn't see my life without her in it. We don't have to talk every day but we know we love one another. We support each others decisions and are there when we need to be.
This week there were some changes in my friendship status's. I think you have to assess your life and those in it at times. I started a friendship tonight with someone who has been in my life for nearly eight years. I realized that I am an important source of support in another friends life this afternoon. Some people who had once been called friend are now no longer in that category for me. This week has been eye opening.
I sat at dinner this evening just talking away with a new friend and I can't explain how good it felt. We are a lot alike but live pretty different lives. Biggest difference of all, she doesn't work in the casino. I have needed a friendship out of the business for years and just didn't know how to develop one. She is true to herself which makes her true to others. She has a passion for life, passion for her family, passion for her job, all qualities I want in a friend.
In our lives we all have many friends, some might mean a little more than others but all are there for a reason. The key is to figure out what the reason is and make sure you are centered in your own life enough to be aware of all who surround you.
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